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Young People and partner relationships

Relationships are a new and exciting part of a young person’s life. Developing new relationships can shape your future as the people around you can have such a powerful influence. These new relationships can be challenging and rewarding at the same time as they can share with us the good times and carry us through the bad times.

Your relationships should be positive experiences and good relationships should be built on trust, respect and communication. Sometimes they can be negative and recognising these signs early can save you from hurt and upset. Explore your values and find those who share similar ones.

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What does a good relationship look like?

There is no right or wrong answer to this question! Everyone is individual and how they view what a relationship should look like will differ. All successful relationships are built around a set of core values i.e. trust, respect, honesty etc. however building on those is down to you and your partner. It’s easy to get caught up with the stereotypes of what a relationship should be like so it’s important for you to find what works for you and your partner. To read more about the myths of relationships click here.

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All successful relationships are built around core values.
Young people, relationships and sex

Just because you’ve entered in to a relationship doesn’t mean you need to be having sex. The age of consent for sexual activity in the UK is 16 for both heterosexual and same sex couples however some people find they are ready for sex before this age or later. The average age in the UK for people losing their virginity is 17 years old. Sex plays an integral role in a relationship and having it at the wrong time can be damaging. Don’t be afraid to have the conversation with your partner and decide when the best time is to become intimate. To read more about this click here.

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Don’t be afraid to have the conversation with your partner.
Recognising an unhealthy relationship

As you begin to learn about relationships and the joy they can bring, you also learn that sometimes they don’t go to plan. Recognising unhealthy traits in a relationship early can save the hurt they can bring. Abuse in a relationship can come as physical, emotional, verbal or sexual. It can also come in the form of controlling behaviour. No matter what form it comes as it is unacceptable and no one deserves to be treated that way. It can be difficult to speak out about this if you are experiencing any form of abuse. It is vital you seek help however and there are services out there how will support you through it. To read more into how to recognise if you are in an unhealthy relationship click here.

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It is vital you seek help.

Further reading

The world of relationships changes from generation to generation and there is an endless list of things to talk about. Chat with one of our practitioners if you have any questions about relationships or visit one of the sites listed for professional advice and information.

Useful websites

  • Brook - Free and confidential advice around sexual health, relationships and wellbeing.
  • The Mix - Essential support for under-25’s around sex and relationships, your body, drugs and alcohol, housing, money, work and study, crime and safety and travel and lifestyle.
  • Childline - Information and advice around healthy and unhealthy relationships.
  • Break the Cycle - Advice and information around relationships for young people.
  • Rise Above - Advice, information, real stories, celebrity advice and games around relationships for young people.
  • BISH UK - BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. For all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values.

Useful apps

Bright Sky - Bright Sky is a free to download mobile app providing support and information to anyone who may be in an abusive relationship or those concerned about someone they know.